I've think I've hit the nail on the head!
1 - Yes I'd like to feel pretty normal
2 - No I don't like financial stress
So I'm going to plan my own wedding because
1 - Normal people tend to get married
I'm going to do everything up until the bit where you pay for it because
2 - Thats where the fun turns into stress.
Small print.. I am NOT, I repeat NOT putting any hints down, this is purely self management experimentation.